Stop wishing you had more time to yourself, instead take action and make yourself a priority. Put yourself on your priority list. You deserve it!
Carving out a little ‘me’ time on a regular basis is easy to do once you let go of the guilt and acknowledge the value of time to yourself. Ultimately time to yourself is a win-win for everyone in your life.
When you’re tired, stressed out and pulled in multiple directions, it’s challenging (if not impossible, some days) to give your best to those you care about and to all the tasks you need to accomplish in a day.
‘Me’ time is not selfish; it’s a necessary element of self-care. Without healthy self care, we’re often ill equipped to handle other aspects of our lives which includes caring for others.
Following are my personal recommendations for how to build some ‘me’ time into your busy schedule.
Look at What’s Wasting Your Time
In order to carve out some ‘me’ time, you have to first look at the how you spend your time. What are your biggest time wasters?
Conduct a time audit for 48 hours. Write down how you spend your day. Don't leave anything out. It can be a real eye opener to discover how many times you check your phone or the length of time you actually spend online.
Reduce the number of distractions; be diligent with your time by setting a timer when going online or menu plan instead of making daily trips to the grocery store.
Learn to Say ‘No’
Stop doing things you don't really want to do. There’s tremendous value in saying ‘NO’. Use the word to your advantage. If you don’t value an activity and it doesn’t bring you joy and satisfaction, why do it?
Commit to Daily Self Care
It doesn’t matter whether you take 15 or 30 minutes out each day for personal time, the key is making yourself a daily priority. It is up to you what you do - take a bath, listen to music, mediate, go for a walk etc.
The key is to block off the time for yourself so you have a daily chunk of time that’s completely free of responsibility, where you can be mindful and focus on yourself and your well being.
Decide How to Spend Your ‘Me’ Time
Self-care activities are a personal choice. If you’re not sure about the best way to make the most of your time, think of the kinds of things that make you feel rejuvenated, relaxed and happy. Consider the activities and varying time frames you may have available to you.
Start a list of things you would like to do if you had an extra 15 minutes, a half hour, an afternoon or an entire day to yourself. Keep adding to your list when activities come to mind and then start scheduling time into your calendar.
Schedule in Self Care Like Any Other Activity
At the beginning of each week, take a few minutes to plan for the week ahead, include not only what you need to accomplish but also slot in your personal self-care time. Treat your ‘me’ time like you would any other appointment and make it non-negotiable. Write it in pen, not pencil.
Whatever you decide to do make it something you look forward to. A few moments of pause in your everyday can do wonders for your overall well being.
Happy ‘Me’ time!
I welcome your comments below re: what you do for self-care and how often you book 'me' time.