We all have things in life we want. Some of these things maybe dreams while others are goals. The difference between the two lies in our action or inaction.
For years, I collected books on simplifying and rarely cracked a cover. Instead, I let the books pile up and collect dust. Why did I buy them in the first place?
I was tired, overwhelmed and wanted to simplify my life but not to the extent I was ready and willing to actually make it happen.
I was too busy and caught up in the here and now to take any steps to turn my dream of a slower, more fulfilled life into reality.
Instead, I continued along with the everyday. Days full of activity and responsibilities with a few healthy self-care habits spread here and there that made me a happy yet not I was taking any real action toward what I desired most.
Can you relate? Is there something in your life you play lip service to but find yourself not taking action on?
What's wrong with this picture? It boils down to the simple fact that talk is easy, action is not.
I had to figure out what was holding me back. I knew what I wanted; I just didn't know how to get there.
For me, it was a personal health scare (and no doubt in part, also turning fifty) that brought about some soul-searching. The time to make some positive changes in my life was now.
First, I needed to clear myself of everything that was holding me back. I needed to find a way to let go of the heavy stuff that had been weighing me down. I had to take an honest look at my daily habits and routines. What was working and what wasn’t. What was positive going forward and what was holding me back. In short, I needed to open myself up to new experiences, opportunities and be willing to establish new habits and routines, and get rid of the old.
Before I could make any external moves in the direction I desired, I had to take the internal action of exploring what I needed and wanted. Personal reflection gave me the answers. I walked and sat in quiet until I knew what it was I needed to do.
It was only when I took an honest look at was holding me back did I find clarity and coupled with that, the ability to clear the stuff that had been getting in my way.
While I didn't personally have an outward abundance of material items to free myself from, I did have to explore why I was continuing to do nothing towards what I claimed to want.
Coaching and supporting others in their goal of removing the unnecessary in their lives comes naturally but when it came to looking at my clutter, it was a real challenge.
For me, clutter was found in day-to-day busyness and a jam-packed schedule. Somehow I ended up filling my life of unimportant stuff. So much of the important stuff rarely saw the light of day.
Sure my life was organized and I regularly practiced self-care. I am a professional organizer and life coach, after all. I had neatly organized closets, cupboards and storage shelves full of stuff; lots of family and friends whom I would make the time to get together with on a regular basis but I was also putting everyone else's needs above my own.
Can you relate? Many women can as it is our nature to nurture.
It was only after I took an honest look at what was holding me back and causing so much dissatisfaction, was able to move forward, set a game plan and take action.
I admit it isn’t easy. I’m a work in progress. I still have a lot to learn but by going inside myself and exploring both the negative and positive, and by accepting not ignoring the feelings I have, I'm able to stop the habitual cycle of my negative actions.
By addressing my internal needs, concerns and acknowledging my feelings; I have gained wisdom and the knowledge that some of my negative feelings were actually causing my actions or as it were, inaction. By ignoring these feelings I would have continued spending more time on the negative.
It’s only in letting go, am I able to move forward. To free and unburden myself of the unnecessary so I can focus on the necessary.
In quiet, I continue to learn how to better direct to myself. How to continue go right not left, as I travel the paths of my life.
Through mindfulness and meditation I'm learning how to align my conscious and subconscious mind and break the negative patterns that I had lived with for so long.
If I truly want different results, I have to stop doing the same things over and over again.
Today I’m focusing on 'exclamation mark' living. I want to live my best life and encourage others to do the same. To make changes first in mindset then in lifestyle via a commitment to change, as well as the discipline and consistency it takes to get there.
I honestly believe living outside your comfort zone is the best way to grow and achieve. Staying within the safety and comfort of old habits will do little to increase your happiness or propel you forward.
Align your heart, mind and actions; and positive things will happen.
Stop wasting time gathering ideas of things you want to try like recipes, crafts and DIY projects (e.g. the ones you collect on Pinterest boards but never do), and start taking action today on the things that speak to you and move you in the direction of achieving your bigger goals.
Make the time for self-evaluation. Really listen to your internal self - your needs and desires, your strengths and weaknesses. Trust that you have your own best answers.
Start today to live your priorities and stop living against your values.
Remember, a goal without action isn’t really goal at all.
What are you waiting for?